Here’s something that’s going to blow your mind: you can’t become happy by chasing happiness. It’s like trying to fall asleep by trying really hard to fall asleep — the trying IS the problem. Philosophers call this “the paradox of hedonism,” and John Stuart Mill learned it the hard way.
It sounds counterintuitive, but trying to avoid all suffering can make you more miserable. If your life is organized around avoiding discomfort—skipping hard classes, avoiding difficult conversations, numbing out with Netflix and social media—it’s not working, is it?
Okay, so if happiness isn’t the next achievement or perfect Instagram moment, what is it? Enter Aristotle, who’s honestly the GOAT when it comes to this stuff. He had this word—eudaimonia—that gets translated as “happiness” but really means something closer to “flourishing” or “living well.”
I know you’re probably sitting in your dorm room right now, stressed about midterms, wondering if you picked the right major, scrolling through Instagram and feeling like everyone else is happy and has their life figured out except you. Spoiler alert: they don’t.
